Grow up !!!

Recently I have had folks all around me discuss about one of the topic which I consider most dear to me. KIDS...

One of the things that I love about them is the genuine smile….. which for some obnoxious reasons which I could never comprehend, you rarely receive from adults. Well, we have got problems you see..yeah , right!!!

Anyways…what seems to be getting on my nerves recently is how people think of children as their lineage carrier.. and most of them happily use EMB (Emotional blackmail) and get their children to do what they want to be done..I am in a kinda rambling mode coz of the…

Conversation in the cafeteria

E : Today my mother in law asked my kid, - “Shall I comb your hair?”.. My daughter shooed her away and said “my” mom will do that. You go away…?” I felt so happy and proud of my child..

F : Wow.. you have got a smart kid.. Good you have a control over your kid

G : Aaaaaa… what was wrong in having her grandmother comb her hair…

F : Whats wrong.. Today she will comb the hair, tmrw she will tell the kid to not speak to her mother and even before you realize the kids will be in their control

E : I know..

G : Why are you so sure that is how its gonna happen.. Maybe your kid might have a nice time with her too

E : Oh no G, you don’t understand.. What will you do if tmrw you kid , on their coercion screams something at you or asks you to get out.. Your own kid saying that to you.. Wouldn’t that hurt you..

G: Well, at that moment I will think of what the kid is.. he or she is after all… a kid…

F : Yes.. but don’t you see how you let them manipulate your kid against you..

G There are something you can teach them .. and somethings they will have to learn on their own.. Like what is right and whats not.., But you cant imagine something is gonna go wrong and stop the kid from falling down, getting hurt, getting up and running again…

E : You are not understanding.. Its your kid.. A part of you…

G : : But isn’t the kid another person.. I mean.. like everyone else.. Yes, its my blood and flesh.. that’s abt it… I am going to take care of the upbringing,,, But why should I stop it from enjoying love and care which it might get from whomsoever around..

F : You wont understand it now, G.. only when you have a baby, you will be hooked and the maternal instinct will want you to have the baby to yourself..

G : What abt if I adopt a baby? Then will I still be having the same feelings….

E : Oh noooooooooo.. There has been and will always be a difference between your own kid and an adopted one ..

G : Why should there be… a baby is a baby is a baby…

F : There is a definite difference..the bond is not there… so tmrw you might not feel so attached to the adopted one..

G : Eggjactly my point.. why should I attach myself to my own kid as well.. I will definitely love my kid like crazy.. but what should make me think that just becoz it is my own blood , the kid is gonna love me forever or that I have the hell of a “right” to be in control of this person…

E : Oh forget it G.. Its not the same… you will hopefully understand sometime in future what we say…

G : And I hope not..

F : Oh yes you will ….When you experience the wonder of getting to see your “own” baby grow up in front of you….

G : Hmmm…. Alright….Will leave it at that.. What still seems to bothers me is… who needs to grow up…..


As i blog i am feeling proud of what i said and felt.. and here i am reminded of what a friend once quoted

Insanity is to expect others to behave like you would.

Normality is the capacity to accept that they might not...

Hope i can grow up too...