Kya khayaal hai aapka...

She wanted answers to these complexities of life..
And i replied...

What is love?

Love is a verb

How is the way you love your partner or the person who cannot be your partner but you wish he/she would be different from the way you love your parents and siblings?

You can break a lot of boundaries with you partner and friends, which lets you be more of your real you, whereas with family there is certain consciousness involved of not hurting their sentiments and standards of value system... Family is always there to depend on (in most of the cases) since they consider you as their priority, friends might have other priorities... Stuff like this makes the wavelengths with one’s family different when compared to your partner/ other persons you love …


Does love have anything to do with admiration, respect, trust, concern etc?

I believe so... I have always fallen in love with someone whom I admire... whom I respect and whom I can trust... and when I have lost the admiration and trust... I have found it easier to detach myself from my need to be in love with them… But then one can also be in love with someone whom they don’t seek all these qualities… coz heart has reasons, reasons can’t understand….

What is the difference between longing to be with someone and love?

Longing to be with someone is a result of love… in the sense, the quality of time spent with that particular person, keeps you in love with them and also makes you long for more of such moments….

What is marriage?

Something created to add legality to union of two souls. If one hopes and believes that their love with the other person is going to be everlasting, why not sign a dotted line to state the same... I think marriage is that and a lot more...

How do two people who are arranged to marry suddenly fall in love?

When you know that you can fall in love with a designated person... You try to find ways and means to find what connects both of you… and when things surprisingly click in your favour... you can’t help but fall head over heels in love…

What is love at first sight?

That sudden rush of all stuff inside you... which gets you excited… and even when you get up in the morning the next day... the hangover remains and you cant stop thinking of the first look you noticed on that person’s face..

Can you fall in love with a friend who you always had platonic feelings towards?

Yes... I think it is very common ….. Platonic is the absence of physical desire… When you start having receiving and giving everything else except that... It is quite usual to wanna explore love in all the forms with the friend since you are very comfortable with that person in all other aspects… And then there is always the choice of trying to refrain from falling in love with them for many other reasons as well...

Would you still love your partner if he were to change completely to become the person you would hate?

Depends on what made him change to become the person whom I would hate... I will always try and be there when he/she needs me... coz I believe hate begets hate and love begets love…


But you would still love your kids despite that kind of a change right?

Undoubtedly, I would love my kids however they turn out to be… coz they would have given me immense joy and the feeling somehow lingers on… in spite of everything…


hmmm...kya khayaal hai aapka...